Robyn’s Blog

I just want to comment on Shayden’s post on Midge and Judy.  She says that Judy lied to Johnny and through her deception is responsible for his downfall.  I feel very strongly opposed to this idea.  I don’t think that you can “get” someone to fall in love with you.  They have to do that all by themselves.  AND they have to take responsibility for any consequences that ensue.  Shayden says that Johnny “wants eroticism and excitement, something unusual.”  Yes.  He wants this.  He wants to fall in love with Judy/Madeline.  Midge is therefore not the ideal girl, because she isn’t what Johnny really wants.

Okay, what Johnny wants happens to be a unhealthy and dangerous obsession.  But he makes that decision for himself.  And frankly, I’d rather have an unhealthy and dangerous obsession than settle for a Midge.  And probably so would you.  It doesn’t matter how good anyone looks on paper.  Anyone–bloggers–have you made pro/con lists about people you had crushes on back when you were in middle school?  Don’t lie.  The “nice guy/girl” who was such a “good friend” was never the one you fell for.   Nothing changes.

Johnny is seduced by Judy because he wants to be seduced.  In order to fall you have to be willing to let yourself go.  Only you can make that decision.  No one is capable of “seducing” someone else unless that person is willing to be seduced.  If Johnny–or anyone–is really that weak of a person then he clearly deserves his fate.  Judy and Johnny are both equally responsible for their respective downfalls.